OK, this subject is probably one of the most common amongst all. It happens everyday, every hour, minute so on and so on. Men cheating on women and women cheating on men. Now, the most usual scenario consists of the man cheating, his significant other finding out, she confronts the "mistress" dislikes her forever, and stays with her man. My question to you is...WHO is REALLY the blame? I really want to hear your comments, and of course I have my views too.First of all, I personally always thought it was crazy for people to go straight after the "other woman/man," (unless it's a family member or best friend :-0) But seriously, do you really think "the other person" is concerned about you?..especially seeing how your significant other doesn't seem to be..? Ummmm...NO! And that's IF they even know about you. Then we have your significant other who "loves and cares for you" and "would never hurt you." So you tell me who you should really be going in on! No matter what the situation, shouldn't real love overpower mere lust?
And as far as the ones that are so accepting of being the "other person," instead of confronting them or chasing them down and catching a charge, just pray for them. It's obviously a lack of something there, if they are willing to settle, I mean who wants to be on the side...no special treatment, no benefits...just a here and there fling. But hey if you like it I love it!
What do you think?
The CHEATER is to Blame. Why? The cheater is either not willing to leave their current partner or not being satisfied and falls victim to the temptation. In response to confronting the outside party, one must exercise self-control in these situations. Whether the OTHER person knows about the relationship or not, you only engage in a dispute or resolution with your partner.
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ReplyDeleteThis is a very touchy topic and a very personal one for me. Having endured being cheated on and looking back on the situation now, I would have to say that the person who has made the commitment to you should be the one to blame. However, when you're in the thick of all the emotional turmoil, lies, games and the pain that you're feeling, it's easy to blame the world. In my particular case the other woman knew about me, my family, my children and simply didn't care. She toyed with me, lied to me, and ultimately helped my man become an even better cheater by offering him assistance in not getting caught. I kept asking myself, "What kind of woman does this?" "How desperate is she?" All I can say PrettyBee is the scandal ripped through my life like a deadly disease, I was totally blindsided and devastated. My relationship was one that people admired, so I just couldn't believe it was happening to me especially in such a diabolical calculated fashion.
As I mentioned earlier it's your significant other's responsibility to respect the commitment with you, but when women make it so easy for them to have their cake and eat it too what's to stop them? These women believe the lies these guys tell about their significant others and think they're doing or giving something better. When in fact they're just being played and used up for 10 minutes of lust.
OAN: When we go through these situations we're always wondering why??? There is never a good enough explanation, but my man's reason was that there was nothing particuraly special about the other woman, just that she was persistant in her pursuit and didn't care about the fact that he was attached, that was until the moment she wanted more..........
Wow! Me and my friend were talking about the show on OWN(Oprah's Network) called Unfaithful:Stories of Betrayal, and checkin out some info online and I came across this. That previous woman's story is way too common. Now I know the man should respect his relationship, no doubt. But where's the respect just from woman to woman and how you would personally feel if it was the other way around? How about self respect? People need to take responsibility for their actions and the type of woman described in the other comment is the most dangerous type, "The Pretender" they act like they "bout it, bout it" but that's just to get the guy comfortable enough to mess with them in the first place. Then when the guy takes the bait the expectations for him to leave who he's with come into play and if he don't move fast enough, then the threats to tell the "main girl" start. It's nothing but a bunch of drama. How do people expect to build a relationship based on lies anyway? It won't last cause how can you trust each other. I read something before that said "If you are with a man who cheated with you, then you're with a man who cheats" Females need to get it together.
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